All of my daughters have been participating in rec (recreation department) soccer for our township. They have by-and-large doing very well, winning most of their games. My oldest daughter ran into a team from a neighboring township that was really good, with several very strong players. My daughters team got destroyed by them yesterday. Important note – these were non-refereed scrimages. Coaches are allowed on the field, there were few fouls called, and there was no attention paid to players being off-sides.
Although watching the game was painful, I can still say I learned a few things. For starters, I am learning how to suppress my competitive instinct to not be that parent on the sidelines. Secondly, I understand why in soccer-crazy countries they separate the fans to minimize stadium violence. But what I learned that was most useful was from an older gentleman – the father of my daughter’s coach (Coach Meg) who was also a former referee – who was sitting next to us.
His daughter was out on the field coaching her team, clearly relaying her frustration and disappointment to the girls. You name the strengths, this other team had it, and they exploited every weakness of the opposition. They were aggressive, first to the ball every time, and maximized their opportunities to get in a scoring position. The other coach stayed on the sidelines, virtually silent, shouting out rotations and the occasional words of encouragement. Coach Meg’s father turned to me and asked, “Do you know why the other coach isn’t on the field? He’s done coaching. Coaching is for practice, not game day”.
Just something for you to chew on in the workplace, regardless as to if you are a coach or a player. Do you need to be on the field on game day or was all your coaching done during practice?